Apologizing for all the wrong reasons

I’m sorry.

I’m sorry for being in your way.

I’m sorry for needing that resource.

I’m sorry for asking for more money.

I’m sorry for asking for time off.

I’m sorry I distracted you.

I’m not one to apologize. It hurts my bones to apologize (Did I tell yall I’m an 8? If you know, you know). I hate apologizing so much that its a motivator to consistently do what I believe to be the right thing, but for some reason I will apologize for the dumbest things. I’ll say “oh I’m sorry,” just for taking up space. I’ll apologize for not doing someone else’s work to the quality that they may have expected (notice I’m saying someone else’s work, as in work on top of my work). I’ll apologize for needing the copier when someone else needs it. Who am I?

What I do know is that as I repeat these useless apologies, I’m giving other people the opportunity to discredit me. I’m no psychologist, but what I mean is if I keep apologizing for insignificant things on a regular basis will I become the “I’m sorry girl.” Why is Kristina always apologizing? Why is Kristina always in the way? Why is Kristina not doing a good enough job?

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Listen, you should apologize for being a jerk, you should not apologize for taking up a space that is yours. When you go to work, own it don’t apologize for it.

While we are at it, let’s talk about some other things to say/not say at work:

No.

You interrupted me. (I’m not done talking).

That’s not funny. If something isn’t funny and/or its out of line, say so.

That’s not appropriate. See above.

I already know that. (take that mansplainers).

Because I said mansplainers I’ll inevitably have to say this: This isn’t a post about men, this is a post about your presence at work. This is a post about interacting with all co-workers and some slight changes we can make in 2019 to make our presence be just that, more of a presence. In 2019 claim your space boldly.

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