Apologizing for all the wrong reasons

I’m sorry.

I’m sorry for being in your way.

I’m sorry for needing that resource.

I’m sorry for asking for more money.

I’m sorry for asking for time off.

I’m sorry I distracted you.

I’m not one to apologize. It hurts my bones to apologize (Did I tell yall I’m an 8? If you know, you know). I hate apologizing so much that its a motivator to consistently do what I believe to be the right thing, but for some reason I will apologize for the dumbest things. I’ll say “oh I’m sorry,” just for taking up space. I’ll apologize for not doing someone else’s work to the quality that they may have expected (notice I’m saying someone else’s work, as in work on top of my work). I’ll apologize for needing the copier when someone else needs it. Who am I?

What I do know is that as I repeat these useless apologies, I’m giving other people the opportunity to discredit me. I’m no psychologist, but what I mean is if I keep apologizing for insignificant things on a regular basis will I become the “I’m sorry girl.” Why is Kristina always apologizing? Why is Kristina always in the way? Why is Kristina not doing a good enough job?


Listen, you should apologize for being a jerk, you should not apologize for taking up a space that is yours. When you go to work, own it don’t apologize for it.

While we are at it, let’s talk about some other things to say/not say at work:


You interrupted me. (I’m not done talking).

That’s not funny. If something isn’t funny and/or its out of line, say so.

That’s not appropriate. See above.

I already know that. (take that mansplainers).

Because I said mansplainers I’ll inevitably have to say this: This isn’t a post about men, this is a post about your presence at work. This is a post about interacting with all co-workers and some slight changes we can make in 2019 to make our presence be just that, more of a presence. In 2019 claim your space boldly.

Author: Kristina H. Minyard, SHRM-CP, PHR

My goal is to challenge the way we view, measure, and utilize HR and recruiting in a positive and encouraging way. I love working in HR and value the network of HR professionals that I also call friends. I'm always learning from my fellow HR pros and find comfort in their expertise. I'm an active member of my local SHRM chapter (NASHRM) and a total HR enthusiast! My HR related knowledge is a mix of recruiting, retaining, engaging and just plain helping people discover their passion. I'm a follower of Christ, Wife, Mom, Corporate Recruiter, Blogger, problem solver, runner, Sports FANATIC & Razorback surviving amongst the [crimson] tide! You can find me on twitter & Instagram: @HRecruit Snapchat: kminny32 Google+: https://plus.google.com/+KristinaMinyard LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/kristinahutto/ Thoughts here (and on all my social media channels) are mine and do not represent the thoughts/beliefs of my employer. Why would I name my blog HR Pockets? Read about it in my first post years ago!!

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