I told you so!

i told you soSometimes I lack a filter and it’s okay, I embrace it mostly. Sometimes my lack of filter gets me in trouble… and that’s okay too. It ultimately means that I learned a lot of lessons the hard way (for example, maybe you shouldn’t call someone at corporate an @$hole in an email to the VP? ehhh… that’s not really a good example because I didn’t really get in trouble for that one. I do however, realize that probably wasn’t my best idea). What I struggle with the most, filter wise, is the “I told you so”. Pretty much my entire adult life has been spent as a recruiter, yet a lot of times my knowledge and abilities are underestimated. For a lot of reasons like I’m a young, adorable female; my experience is mostly in the staffing industry and that industry as a whole is under valued and because I have no filter. I can tell you all day why I’m good at recruiting and I can even teach you how to recruit-the truth is, I know my #@!%, so when someone goes against one of my hiring recommendations the majority of the time I’m going to get an opportunity to say I told you so. I realize this isn’t always the case, I am aware that I am not 100% right. The point isn’t that I rock, the point is that I’ve also learned the hard way to not say I told you so. The recruiter version of me 6 years ago took every opportunity to say I told you so, the recruiter I am now knows better. I can’t expect the [customers] to respect my experience and recommendations if I don’t respect their perspective. I have to step back and look at things from all angles and to think of how I would want the news delivered to me. When I go against a hiring decision I provide the reasons why, all of them, and document them. I also find out as much information as I can as to why they want to hire this particular person and ask do their likes outweigh my dislikes. When a hire goes south we revisit that file and see what I saw and how it relates to where the hire went wrong. I help the customer see what I saw just like they help me sort through the job description and determine what is necessary/important to them and what isn’t in the beginning of the process. You not only have to be able to communicate this information, you have to be able to communicate it across generations and communicate it well.

Some important lessons that I’ve learned from my “I told you so” moments:
-Someone will always be around to also tell YOU “I told you so”
-No one likes a know-it-all
-It’s immature
-It’s not worth it

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Author: Kristina H. Minyard, SHRM-CP, PHR

My goal is to challenge the way we view, measure, and utilize HR and recruiting in a positive and encouraging way. I love working in HR and value the network of HR professionals that I also call friends. I'm always learning from my fellow HR pros and find comfort in their expertise. I'm an active member of my local SHRM chapter (NASHRM) and a total HR enthusiast! My HR related knowledge is a mix of recruiting, retaining, engaging and just plain helping people discover their passion. I'm a follower of Christ, Wife, Mom, Corporate Recruiter, Blogger, problem solver, runner, Sports FANATIC & Razorback surviving amongst the [crimson] tide! You can find me on twitter & Instagram: @HRecruit Snapchat: kminny32 Google+: https://plus.google.com/+KristinaMinyard LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/kristinahutto/ Thoughts here (and on all my social media channels) are mine and do not represent the thoughts/beliefs of my employer. Why would I name my blog HR Pockets? Read about it in my first post years ago!!

1 thought on “I told you so!”

  1. Stepping back and let others make choices that conflcit with ours can be really challenging – the fact that you’re doing so now means you’ve graduated to Recruiting 2.0!

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